Bringing Bondage into the Bedroom

No longer something that is a thought of as a complete taboo, and more along the lines of a healthy sex life, once you’ve got brought the bondage into the bedroom, it becomes very hard to let it go…It’s all about taking your sex life to the next level, feeling comfortable enough to explore your partner and have them explore you, as well as bringing you even closer in your relationship.   

You can start off with the easy stuff, like handcuffs and silk ties, before moving on to the more elaborate forms of bondage gear such as special restraints and toys.

"I want to try bondage”… how to bring it up.

                             

If you’re at the point in your relationship where you’re ready to try new things, then it’s probably safe to say you’re also at a point where trust is at a high point.

However, it is important not to just throw the idea of bondage onto your partner, especially if they don’t know as much about it as you do.

First things first, you need to understand that you both have your limits and as restraints are involved, you are becoming completely submissive to whoever is in control. As fun as bondage is, it is also handing over responsibility of safety to your partner, so don’t treat it as a laugh and joke, keep an element of seriousness about the conversation.

Don’t be scared to ask questions about your partners’ fantasies and desires – there is probably so much that you still don’t know yet, so be keen to learn more and find out what they think about bondage.

Start by asking about the softer options, such as handcuffs, or suggest browsing Adored for some new toys. A blindfold is a great way to start as the hands and legs are still free, which eases you both into the bondage play.

Once you’re onto the subject of bondage, open up and tell your partner how far you would like to go, and what it is about bondage that turns you on. 

Don’t be scared to voice worries that you may have, and if you find that bondage becomes something that you no longer wish to explore, don’t be scared to share your feelings about it. When moving forward with your fantasy, agree as to how far you’d like to go and make sure that your purchases fall in line with what you both want to do.

The following three questions are the staples when it comes to bringing bondage into the bedroom:

  • Do you want to enhance foreplay and different senses in the bedroom?
  • Does one of you want to take on the dominant role, and the other the submissive, or are you happy taking turns?
  • Do you feel comfortable being locked in restraints, or would you like the option of setting yourself free?

Tonight’s the night… trying bondage for the first time…

We recommend handcuffs, a blindfold and wrist and ankle restraints for your first bondage purchases. Having these staples will allow you to experiment and find out just how far you’d like to push yourself, without investing too heavily in something that you may or may not fully enjoy.

You can purchase bondage kits and sets with these items in rather than buy them separately, saving you a bit of money and giving you variety.

Browse through our selection at Adored and see just how heavy duty you would like to go; some customers prefer to have something that doesn’t look as daunting, such as our ready or not reveal your mood mask – which still gives you an element of control over whether your partner can do what they want with you or not – perfect for first timers.

Those who prefer to go a little harder can try one of our collars, or even invest in a whip to heighten those senses even more. 

Ball gags and bedroom restraint kits are also fantastic additions to the bondage kit, and our Fetish Fantasy Series Position Master will allow you try a whole new manner of positions, whilst restrained and only capable of sitting back and enjoying the ride.

Always remember…

If you start to feel uncomfortable, use a ‘safe’ word that tells your partner to stop. Never feel too embarrassed to stop your partner if you’re not happy with the way things are progressing.